Hospice and palliative care professionals, including doctors, nurses, clergy, chaplains, lay ministers, counselors, social workers, support staff, volunteer coordinators. Invite anyone it would help!


Hospite - A respite for professional caregivers is designed as a FREE annual program to provide time for reflection, networking opportunities and continuing education for Hospice professionals across Iowa.

CEU fees will be paid by Iowa Cremation*

The keynote speaker for our 7th annual Hospite event is Dr. Alan Wolfelt, PhD, CT, Director of the Center for Loss & Life Transition, Fort Collins, CO, who will be presenting “Exploring the Paradoxes of Mourning: Enhancing Your Understanding of the Three Forgotten Truths."


Iowa Cremation and Cedar Memorial is blessed with a staff of caring professionals, who embrace the families you have unselfishly served. It is our unrelenting mission to continue your care, with compassion and dignity. Our similar goals and challenges beg for our continued and frequent dialogue.


Wednesday, October 25th in Des Moines. Check in at the event will begin at 8:00 a.m.  Delicious food and beverages will be available during registration, lunch and the afternoon break.

Wednesday, October 25th in Des Moines will be held at the Holiday Inn - Mercy Campus, 1050 6th Avenue, Des Moines, Iowa 50314.

Parking is available in the attached parking complex.


Hospite 2016 has been approved for 0.6 CEUs / 6.0 CEHs. Continuing education certificates will be awarded by Kirkwood Community College. As an organization accredited to offer continuing education, Kirkwood Community College has approved this program in determining CEUs/CEHs for health providers. Certificates will be awarded for 100% attendance only (partial credit will not be awarded). Nursing CEUs approved through the Iowa Board of Nursing, Provider #30. All allied health professionals are reminded that they are responsible for reviewing the governing rules of their boards to determine if appropriate subject matter criteria will apply. A course evaluation will be available upon program completion.

Purpose and Objectives

In a society that promotes "faster and easier", our speaker, Dr. Alan Wolfelt, will teach the value of a slower and more personal grieving process.

Participants will learn the three forgotten truths surrounding grief and loss, and that “old-fashioned” customs sometimes trump “newfangled” theories, and how those who walked before us have much to teach us about the mysteries of life and death. They will learn about the wisdom anchored in the three paradoxical truths of mourning, which include the following assertions:

    You must say hello before you can say goodbye
    You must make friends with the darkness before you can move forward
    You must go backward before you can move forward

Learner Objectives

    Dicuss how to use the "Three Forgotten Truths" when counseling the dying and the families facing a death loss.
    Define the concept of paradox in relationship to grief and mourning.
    Describe how different influences affect the paradoxes.
    Demonstrate the advantages of the "Slow Grief Movement."



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- Barbara B. from Clive, Iowa


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- Patti B. from Muscatine, Iowa


"The compassion and professional care extended to us by Iowa Cremation was very consoling and deeply appreciated by our family."

- Mary Ellen M. from Lansing, Iowa